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I wish I had something substantial to say for the Spotlight, it being the day and all, but I don’t, so let’s pretend (oh goodness, how many times did I say that as a child?) that you’re my neighbor, which you kind of are, and we’re chatting over the back fence.  That’s my shadow wearing my favorite hat, waving at you.  Good morning!

How are you today?  I hope well.  I am fantastico.  I awoke to Greg’s warmth next to me and a billowing bedroom curtain.  Gosh, that might be the finest AM combination.  Despite whatever turmoil I might be experiencing, there is always joy in being with the hubster and seeing a curtain fluttering in the breeze.

As for Spotlight potential, I am reading a book, a monster of a book, page wise, probably the longest I’ve read, Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand.  That’s one of the reasons why I haven’t written much this week.  I’ve had my nose in that book since Monday.  It is really good too, at least so far.  I’m 475 pages of 1164 into the story, and boy does it have me going.  Who is John Galt, and why would he start such things in motion, really, just because he can?  I don’t know; it seems sort of wicked, but also pretty right on, too.  I think, like Ms. Rand, I am a bit of an Objectivist, though to a lesser degree – I am also a Gemini, and this trumps all!  I kind of wish I could just sit in my comfy chair until it’s done, but I’ve got things to do, like get ready for tomorrow.

That’s the other bit that’s been keeping me from writing.  We’re having a party for the neighbors tomorrow.  I’m calling it an “afternoon social” with lemonade, chips, dips, and four kinds of cookie – sugar, chocolate drop, gingersnap, and my triple threat peanut butter.  I’ve got the dough for the first three cookies made, a batch of lemonade in the freezer, so we’ll have lemonade ice rather than diluting something so delicious, and two of the three dips ready to go.  Now, I need to get some weeds pulled, the last bit of bark mulch and rocks spread in the yard, the vacuum out to tackle the dust bunnies, mop the floors, and clean the icky mess that is my stove top.

Oh yes, that’s something else special that happened to keep me from the blog.  I made omelets with my friend Amber yesterday, and she got to see said stove top in all its dirty glory.  We had a grand time making our delicious omelets (filled with roasted asparagus, mushroom, and Willamette Valley gouda, zowie!), chatting, and enjoying a bit of sun out in the yard.  It’s funny how a person can be in your life for literally years, yet there is so much you don’t know.  I’m glad we had the chance to get to get better acquainted yesterday.  It’s like having a lens you thought was clear come into greater focus – the colors are brighter, sharper, and even more eye-catching.  Thanks Amber.

I better get a move on, so much to do!  Think good thoughts for dry weather until 4:00 tomorrow because if everyone comes, there will be fifty of us crowded in the house.  After that, I don’t mind if it pours.  As a matter of fact, I’d rather like it.

Have a great weekend!

Something that I love about the life I share with Greg is the fact that we are just happy to be together.  Maybe it is the fact that we’ve been a couple for eighteen years, but we realize that there is so little we truly need from each other.  We are each our own source of happiness and joy, modified by the fact there is someone truly wonderful to cuddle with each night in bed.

We have no grand expectations or idealized versions of what our life should look like.  What we have is what we want and relish, every last bit:  being in the same room, listening to music, watching a movie, sharing a smile, a laugh, or, in this case, a meal.

This was our Sunday dinner.  Neither of us has ever outgrown the fish fillets of our youth.  So we baked some up, and I made tartar sauce and rosemary (fresh from the garden!) home fries to accompany them.  It certainly wasn’t anything gourmet, but, with his company, it sure felt like it.  Every bite was delicious.  A real treat!

Today was the first time this year it’s been over seventy degrees in Portland and boy was it glorious!  The sun made me feel energized, getting all manner of tasks done – laundry, weeding, cleaning house.  Ahh, everything is easier when it is warm.  Some highlights…

Clothes on the line and cushions on the furniture…

The spirea and maple budding to life…

Solar light and gazing globe in the garden – a sure sign of spring!  The peonies are coming up, too…

Cats and people enjoying the sun…

The scent of daffodils and hyacinth filling the house.  Thanks Martha and Alan…

I hope everyone had a wonderful day!

Yesterday at Nia class, my instructor Margaret mentioned Silver Falls State park here in Oregon, and with it came a cascade of memories for me.

The spring after we first moved here, one of Greg’s colleagues participated in an exchange with someone from Daimler-Chrysler to further the relationship between companies.  Ron went off to Germany and Hans came here.

I think, quite possibly, he was the best gift we had in that first year.  We’d had a rough start with the house (the furnace and oven breaking, plumbing problems, etc.) and I couldn’t find work as a teacher (a long standing trend!).  One night, after a particularly bad day, we had Hans over for dinner, and his presence was like a light shining down on us – warm, friendly,  and entirely good.  It was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Hans became a near constant companion.  We did every manner of activity together.  We explored the McMenamin’s kindgom, had downtown adventures, threw parties, went hiking, took in movies, enjoyed great conversations, the works.

But these memories are the ones I hold dearest to my heart, for they are the most “Hans”:

Hans dressed in what I consider a pretty typical German fashion.  Stylish with a dash of kookiness.  He loved character socks.  He once wore his favorite pair, Popeye, with sandals, to the waterfront for the Rose Festival.  Also, he’d never owned a dryer before, and the one in his apartment was like a revelation.  “Did you know it can dry pants in only half an hour?”  Um yeah, but for every half an hour, you seem to lose a quarter of an inch in length, Hans.  No matter.  He was the happiest guy in high waters and Popeye socks.  Definitely.

Hans always wore a button down shirt, always.  In his left breast pocket he kept a small spiral notebook and pencil for new words and phrases.  Often times, he would bring out the notebook for us to help him with something particularly unusual that he couldn’t suss out with his dictionary.   The best was when he learned “spam sucking trailer trash” and “son of a bitch,” and in a rather serious tone, asked the G-Man and I: “Which is more worser?”  The two of us nearly died with laughter, explaining that it really depends on the audience.

Hans was a master at cards.  He could figure out any game in a matter of minutes and play joyously for hours.  In particular, I loved to watch him shuffle.  I have only recently become even remotely efficient at shuffling.  I can’t really say why.  I used to think it was my hands being small, but then we met Sandeep, and despite his fingers being a full inch shorter than mine, he was like a dealer in Vegas.  Amazing.  Anyway, Hans had this curious way of doing it, basically mixing up the stack, not actually shuffling.  It was crazy how quick and efficient he was at it.  You’d never imagine it would work, but it did.

Finally, the memory that started this all.  On one of our many adventures, we went to Silver Falls State Park for a hike.  It was a cold day, a bit drizzly, but exceedingly beautiful.  The water was high and the falls in their full splendor, loudly crashing into the river below.  As we hiked, we took a path that was further from the falls, deeper into the forest.  Imagine the quintessential Oregon forest – redolent with the scent of clean air and earth, full of moss, ferns, evergreens, and the lacy branches of deciduous trees clamoring for the sun.  We were happily chatting and walking when Hans suddenly stopped.  I kept speaking for a moment then realized what it was about.  Silence.  A void of sound of the most profound variety, like none I have experienced since.  For a full five minutes we stood in utter stillness and wonder that the world could be so beautiful and quiet and we could be so privileged to share in it.

There are many other wonderful memories of Hans, as well, and sometimes, when I need a little pick-me-up, I gently unpack one and smile that such a wonderful man came into my life all those years ago.  Life is good.

By the way, I could not find the picture from that day, so this one has to suffice.  The day was cloudier, but the landscape quite similar…

You Are a Katharine!

You Are a Katharine!

“I am happy and open to new things”

Katharines are energetic, lively, and optimistic. They want to contribute to the world.

How to Get Along with Me

  • * Give me companionship, affection, and freedom.
  • * Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter.
  • * Appreciate my grand visions and listen to/read my stories. :)
  • * Don’t try to change my style. Accept me the way I am.
  • * Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people.
  • * Don’t tell me what to do.

What I Like About Being a Katharine

  • * being optimistic and not letting life’s troubles get me down
  • * being spontaneous and free-spirited
  • * being generous and trying to make the world a better place
  • * having the guts to take risks and to try exciting adventures
  • * having such varied interests and abilities

What’s Hard About Being a Katharine

  • * not having enough time to do all the things I want
  • * not completing things I start
  • * not being able to profit from the benefits that come from specializing; not making a commitment to a career (oy!)
  • * having a tendency to be ungrounded; getting lost in plans or fantasies (eek!)

Katharines as Children Often

  • * are action oriented and adventuresome
  • * drum up excitement
  • * finesse their way around adults 
  • * dream of the freedom they’ll have when they grow up (Boy, did I!)

This is a two question quiz that is surprisingly accurate – I deleted the aspects that were off base.  To find out who you “are” click here.  Happy Monday!

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